I started off my day with an early dentist appointment to follow up on a cavity. That might make you shudder, but I really really love my dentist (his lavender scented washcloths, and his demeanor, and the extra mile he always goes) and even though they gave me a brand new purple toothbrush last week, they gave me a pink breast cancer awareness one today.

I knew it was going to be a good day.

I let the Novocaine wear off and ate some french toast and stuffed my iPod with podcasts and indulged in buying an $8 album off of Amazon.
Got to the bus stop at my leisure, and spent a few hours on campus since I had the day off. I worked on my digital storytelling project and had a hamburger.

On my bus trip home, I watched a 9 year old girl get on the bus with her 6 year old brother. I couldn't believe they were by themselves and that she was taking care of him. It reminded me of how Philip and I were when we were younger, and I missed having someone look up to me like that and how everything I said was truth to him. To have someone believe in you like that. She got them on and off the bus safely, and I hope that they are so close when they are older.

I watched a handsome black man in a three piece suit and matching fedora taking care of his adorable little kid, and I watched him exit the bus with a stroller and watched him set it up on the sidewalk as soon as they exited. You don't see that everyday. The man as the primary caretaker. Que quapo. And this is what made me think, I would really like to dress up as a man for Halloween, if I do go to Emily's yearly rager. The matching fedora is what did it. (And I was listening to Sexy back by JT at the moment) But then I thought, what man do I already look like? And this ended in me buying fake beard at Halloween World and gluing it on my face at 3:30 in the afternoon on a Wednesday. Emma took photos of Philip and I for at least an hour. It was a family moment. We made a memory together, and I think Judy will be horrified, but also get a really good laugh out of it.

I dressed back as a woman for house church, but was peeling glue off of my chin the whole time. Derek talked about God's peace vs. our anxiety, and I thought about how blessed I am to not be struggling with anxiety anymore. He had a really beautiful point about how God wants to hear from us, because He chose us, and we chose Him, and how beautiful that relationship is.  
Thank you God that you chose me.

"I'm getting to know you, Rachel."
"I'm getting to know you! Getting to feel free and easy!" I started to sing while he handed stuff out the drive through. I stopped, because I remembered the next words. "I'm not going to waltz with you, Ian."

Missed the first bus. Got most of the way to the bus stop, but then realized I didn't even have my whole book bag. I thought, can I live without it? And then realized I couldn't get on the bus without my pass.

I kinda wish Fall break had been another week. But I have a couple short weeks at work (finally) to work on huge papers and maybe see my friends and other projects I started.
I have a graduation appointment with the advisor I saw four years ago who basically told me I didn't have my crap together. And I still don't have my crap together, but if you keep at it...at college, you will eventually get it done, even if it takes ten years, because you did things like take a few semesters off to watch TV or go boating.

Also, stretching with a purpose is really helping my back and my wrists. YOGA.  I feel so good just from running more and stretching all the time.

rachel gets a massage.

I had a Groupon, and I finally went to use it, since my back has been killing me and I got off of work at 12:30. But it became, kind of an existential problem for me, if that's the right word for it.

A massage is kind of a medical thing, in that the therapist I got was wearing scrubs, and was heralding the benefits of massage, and saying how insurance companies should pay for it. But it felt different from being at the doctor's, because the whole time I was thinking, Does she think I am fat? Does she notice the Dalmatian bruises I have all over my legs? Does she think I am ugly? I thought this last one as I turned my face toward her, and had my eyes covered, and she was standing directly over me. Of course she is staring at my double chin.

"I'm working out." I wanted to say, "I'm trying to lose weight," I wanted to defend myself. "I haven't eaten a single pastry all day," I thought. I had to convince myself that she loved her job, and loved massaging chubby people like me, so I said, "Do you love being a massage therapist?"
"Oh yes," she said, like I think she says to all the chubby people. I tried to think that massaging skinny people would be like trying to pet Celisse's bony dog. It is weird paying someone to touch you.
I kept her talking, so she would have to like me as a person, and in the end she showed me some good exercises for my wrists, since she thinks I'm getting carpal tunnel, which I never thought would happen to me.
I loved every minute, really.

It's nice to work only one job. I'm loving Fall break, on a whole. I'm excited to be half done with the semester, even though I am regretting the end of my education, piece by piece. I am looking forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas and the New Year. God is so good to me. Every day.

"I made orange juice from concentrate and showed her the trick of squeezing the juice of one real orange into it. It removes the taste of being frozen. She marveled at this, and I laughed and said, Life is easy. What I meant was, Life is easy with you here, and when you leave, it will be hard again. The day felt like a birthday, our first, and we ourselves were the gifts, to be opened again and again."
from Miranda July's Ten True Things. I love how she writes, I get lost in it.

and as Jenny Lewis would say, the days come to me like sailors, and I watch them as they sail away.
I don't have much of my own words to say tonight. I don't get sad, that's good. I still get happy, that's very good. I had a moment of euphoria, even, at work the other day.
The day started a beautiful way of me driving to work when it was just starting to get enough sun to light up the sleepy, crystal clear valley. It is only this way in the cold. And my heater was starting to warm up the air, and I was so pleased to be wearing gloves and a jacket at 6 a.m.
This is a very hard thing to explain, this crystal clear thing. It is like a moment when the colors pop out to you, and you realize how wonderful your life is when you don't have a headache, and you don't have any social engagements tonight, and you can't think of a single sin. It's the moment you clean your glasses and put them back on, and then you realize the world is a lot different than you just thought you were looking at a second ago.
So the moment of euphoria came three or four hours after that. Mixed with sleepy giddiness and one latte, and Jordan wasn't there, I looked around the room and I wanted to say, "I love you. I love you. I love all of you and I want you to come to my party." And at the party, they were going to laugh at all of my jokes, and I would smile, but not smile so big as to crinkle my eyes, and the weather would be like falling asleep in a soft bed. And the music would be Frank Sinatra and Grizzly Bear, and the hors d'oeuvres would be sushi.


It is a powerful thing to have a moment like that. And a very surprising one to have it at Starbucks.

I end up confessing all of my sins to Martha. This is easiest, as she has nothing to do with my real life, and she never judges me. And she is, of course, an eager listener, because who doesn't want to hear another person's deepest secrets?

She has become my therapist. I can tell her anything. I think when I am done here, I will keep coming back to tell her and Misha the secrets. Coming in to say, I like your new haircut. Coming in to say, here is a candy bar, and I really miss you. Coming to say, I married Mike in Vegas, and I'm having second thoughts about him now.


Sometimes in the depths of my empathy towards my poor miserable clients, I still want to lean back and say, "Even though your life is falling apart, you could still probably brush your teeth before leaving the house."


And everyday I get to about lunch time, and wonder why I thought it was a good idea to try to tease my hair into more volume. I end up with bumpy nests in the back of my head, like a drunk 9th grader.

"Thank you for calling ----- Bank, this is Rachel, how can I help you?"
"Wow. You sound like a real person."
"Well, I am a real person. What can I do for you?"
-weird conversation I had with this person this morning who took at least a minute and a half to disclose what her name was

The days are winding down. I am going to miss this place. I'm not going to miss this place. I'm not going to miss Sunday night texts that say, "Please bring your plan of action on how you are going to meet the branch's goals tomorrow," but I will miss putzing my way through the day with two of the coolest girls I have met in a long time. I will miss the pay. I won't miss my boss's mood swings. But I will think of every one there in love and respect.

It is almost autumn. I don't mind the slow transition. It's pretty nice.

oh hi.

How often do you get to give the same person your two weeks notice twice? Well, usually every year, or twice a year if you are me.

I gave G my two weeks notice last night, which I was dreading, but we really had a good conversation, and I feel positive about where I am leaving things with her. So in two weeks, I will officially be back to only wearing coffee-flavored clothes and sometimes I worry that I made the wrong decision, but I feel like Starbucks might be the only company to accommodate all the traveling and shenanigans I am getting myself into in 2012.

And someday I will be giving them my two weeks again. I need to try newer things than coffee and banks, I guess.

 As I was trying to figure out how to open a window on the bus, because the guy behind me kept farting, the bus pulled up to one of its scheduled stops, and this couple who was sitting a few rows in front of me, kissed each other like Barbies, but all I could see was the look on the girl's face, and she looked deliriously happy. She gets up to get off the bus, and smiles at him the whole time. When she steps down to the sidewalk, she keeps smiling and looking at him, and he keeps watching her and they just keep smiling at each other like idiots. Everyone on the bus is watching them, because you never see this. It's not lust, it's not some couple making out in front of a high school. I think that's why we want to watch them.
My new psychology brain says that it's limerence and it's only going to last for so long, but it's a nice thing to see. I think about how long it's been since I felt that way about anyone, but I still smile.
The bus is sometimes my favorite part of the day.

"And I am one of your people
But the cars don't stop
And it's been a long time since before I've been touched
Now I'm getting touched all the time
And it's only a matter of whom
And it's only a matter of when

An addiction to hands and feet-
There's a meat market down the street..."
-Regina Spektor

  

There is a moment, in Wes Anderson's Hotel Chevalier when Natalie Portman says, "Whatever happens in the end, I don't wanna lose you as my friend." and Jason Schwartzman replies, "I promise, I will never be your friend. No matter what. Ever." 

And usually I relate most with Jason's character, of being left and still loving someone even though he/she does not deserve it, and hating myself because of it.

But today I am Natalie Portman, wanting to leave, wanting Martha still to love me. Wanting to have my cake and eat it too.

I'm afraid after cutting all the ties off, that I'm going to feel like I made a mistake. But I'm also sure that I will feel free. I don't know, in the end, if I like "free". But I know that I like movement.

Natalie Portman: I love you. I never hurt you on purpose.

Jason Schwartzman: I don't care.

another Pleasant Valley Sunday


Last night, as I passed Tegan and Sara's exit, I smiled. "I'm sleeping in my own bed, next to no dogs, tonight!" and then after what felt like 3 hours of sleep, my alarm went off.

I think things are going to be good. I have about 3 weeks of hell, coming up, but then I will only be working one job, it will be Fall Break, and maybe I will lose a little more weight.

Everyday is a gift from God. He surprises me, He blesses me.
-I get to work with Christians now.
-I received a small pell grant to put toward this year's student loans.
-I've become a professional house-sitter and it is a nice income on the side.
-My friendships are growing and changing. Mostly growing.
...And my anxiety is gone. I don't get panicky anymore.

and my brother, the hipster

"Do we have "Catch for Us the Foxes" on CD?"
"No, I don't think so."
"Dang, I was going to make a tape of it."
"You could rip it to CD, put it in the stereo, then make a tape of it, HA!"
"Oh the irony of being a hipster...it's only hip if you have to go out of your way to make it work."
-My text message conversation with Philip last night

He just recently bought a car, and it only has a tape player, and rather than get one of those cassette tapes that plugs into your iPhone, he will only use actual tapes, because that's how cool he is. Makes me miss the old days.

This is how house sitting is starting to make me feel.
Like a Sim, whose social bar is red.

Dogs are not replacements for people.
It's been a crazy-interesting week. We'll see how it goes.
God is good, even though I get myself thigh deep in the pudding of terrible decisions. I know it will all work out, and I am still having the time of my life. There are people out there making poorer choices than me, which is slightly comforting...

An interesting thought, to close, because I've been reading my psychology text books all day: People in good partnerships have better health than those of us who are even happy not to be in a relationship. But people can actually die from the depression of a broken heart. They can get strokes or heart attacks from it. Love is a huge gamble. I guess. I am pretty well-off just loving Ryan Gosling from afar.

Well, as I was eating raw hamburger on Saturday night, I knew that the right thing to do would be to go throw it up.

But instead, I am paying for it now. And yesterday. But it could be a lot worse.

KG stayed the night with me, and it was really nice to not be scared at all, and to have someone to talk to. I guess I am already tired of living alone, and my little-purple-house hopes are dashed.
I woke up during the night, and forgot she was there, and I thought, that is a nice surprise that you are with me.

We went up to the mountains pretty early this morning and met up with Becky L. and we had a really lovely hike up I think it is called Mineral Fork? It was beautiful, and not too hard of a hike, and part of it was hiking up water. It was the perfect temperature. It is so much easier to talk to God when you are breathing clean air. But we live our lives in the valley, so we get gas masks and try to shine lights out into the fog.

We ate at a crappy Mexican restaurant and then I accidentally collapsed into a two hour nap with Tegan and Sara's dogs, and I really liked them for that whole time. I like them more each time I come home, and there is not pee on the floor.


I am incandescently happy to have and to hold September.

I told my coworkers all day about how excited I was to have a place to watch movies all by myself, and how excited I was to spend Friday night alone. They were so happy for me.

After work, I went grocery shopping. This is the list of things I bought:
-sweet potatoes
-garlic
-hamburger
-ice cream
-corn dogs
-miniature Kit Kats
-Sailor Jerry
-Bottle of cheap red wine

I forgot Asiago cheese.

So you can see it was going to be a wonderful night, and I had enough food to feed a whole party, even though I was just going to be me.

And then I get a text.
"I'm not going to that party, do you want to go to Ikea and get Swedish meatballs?"

We ate our own meals, (I made salsa when I got "home") and we didn't fight, the whole night. I am hopeful, that I am getting better at my relationships, and the right amount of distance and closeness, because everything felt so amazing by the end of the week. Looking out the windows of Ikea, and looking at my friend, everything had such clarity. The colors seemed richer. My student loans more settled. Employers everywhere were waiting for me to quit my job and work for them.

I feel like I can be the kind of girl who RSVPs to things, and who can make herself eat only one Toaster Strudel in the morning.  The kind of girl who turns in her homework before it is due, and works out....two times a week.

And the future has a lot to look forward to right now. I would say, even, a 10 out of 10. :)

I just wrote a really long post about how I almost had to pee behind a building in the scarier part of SLC last night. But I deleted it because I figured it would be kind of boring.

I forgot how you can't really catch your breath when you are working and going to school, and doing foolish things like thinking you are good at using public transit as your lifestyle.
I didn't pee behind a building, or even in a car.

You never think you are going to live on six hours a night. But you do. And you don't even need coffee, is the truth.

One funny thing is that a woman came in to my bank this morning and was there before I got there, and then still had to sit in the car until the branch was open.
When I finally opened the door to let her in, she said, "I've been waiting in the car for an hour." She slid across the counter a single dollar bill. "This is for deposit," she said.
"Why did you come here so early?" I laughed at her, not even one bit sympathetic.
"It's the only time I can."
"Well why didn't you leave your deposit in the night drop or use the ATM?" I asked her, providing a simple, time-effective solution. She just stared at me, and when she realized how foolish she had been, she just got angry.
People are funny. You can rely on that. 
   But don't rely on mortgage rates staying so low after next year. I am pretty disappointed. I wanted to buy a little purple house and have a compost pile in the back yard.

"I think the main reason that being a Mormon didn't workout for me was that I couldn't take wearing long shorts."
-Stesha, and I have to agree, in this horrible weather

Grateful that:

-Summer is almost over
-School is in session
-Plans are being made for exciting trips next year
-I am so well taken care of by a kind God
-Life comes a day at a time

I am really not very stressed out about anything anymore. How did this happen?

No Makeup Monday

Both Martha and I showed up with no makeup on, which is extremely unusual for work, and I could tell it made G just want to duct tape us to our chairs until she could fix the PROBLEM.

I also wore white socks (Que Unprofessional!) just to show how much I wanted to come to work today after such a lovely weekend with friends and family and burritos. Also, I didn't have any clean black ones. That's why. And even though I ironed a week's worth of nice shirts last night, I wore a an old Starbucks collared shirt I got at Wal-Mart three years ago. I know you are impressed by how I let loose.


I felt like it extended my weekend by a few minutes though.

And you know what? I got to the end of a long starving day, and I realized, "Oh my gosh. I don't have to come back here tomorrow." Because tomorrow is my favorite day of the year, besides Thanksgiving and October 27th, and January 1st.

Tomorrow is the first day of school.

Today this guy walked up to Martha's counter, and I couldn't tell where I knew him from, but his face was so familiar.


Maybe because he looked like Spock from Star Trek.

So I thought here is a famous retired Hollywood actor right in front of us, and I smiled, and he instantly moved to my counter.

"Hi, I didn't know you worked here!" He said.
"Where do I know you from?" I asked.
"From bla-bla ward!" He said.
"Nope. I don't go to that ward." Ha ha ha.
"Oh, well you certainly look like Angela, what is your name? Oh Rachel. Wow that is weird, you look like Angela."
"Nope, I guess we look familiar to each other for no reason," I said.
"Yes, well, Angela's kid is always running around during sacrament and her husband is running after her, and Angela just sits there and laughs!" He told me.
Well sir, I am not Angela, so it is just weird that you are telling me this.

For all I know, since Angela looks just like me, she stole my husband and my kid, and converted them to the LDS faith. I'm not sure how I feel about this woman.
I finished the transaction and tried to figure out how I could work into the conversation that I wanted this guy to either invest/apply for a credit card/refinance his house, and just sighed as he walked out.

Martha just laughed, and she stared off into the distance. "That was weird," she said.

Top ten reasons to keep letting the bank make a sales-whore out of me:
-free catered lunches every once in a while
-I am not getting up at 3:45 am to hand coffee out the window to mean people
-paid holidays
-providing for my wife and kids. Oh whoops, that's not me
-my teller coworkers

and that's not ten reasons. That's just it.
Thank you God that I survived all the way to Friday by Your grace alone. Now for some unashamed laying around and reading for two days.

Alaska.

I finished the Out of the Wild: Alaskan Experiment tonight. I cried at the end. I don't know what it is about me that I can't cry at the appropriate times, like when Judy was trying to say goodbye in so many ways. I haven't cried during worship music. 
But I cried at the end of a TV show when 4 people who subjected themselves to horrible conditions found train tracks in the wilderness, and a train picked them up and took them back to their families.

I want to be on Out of the Wild season 3. They've got to be casting soon, right?

I had my usual guilty snack (every third day) of rice. 
"She's eating your food," my dad said to C. (She eats rice and chicken because she is old and throws up anything else)
"I know, I'm so mean! Rice, yum," I said, because I am not supposed to be eating grains. I walked in the other room.
"Noah, will you please move to Alaska with me for a year?" I say this because Philip is pretty worthless to me by now. He has his own agenda, which is not as cool as mine, and he's too involved with his own plans to do anything really cool with me.
"Why the heck would I want to move to Alaska?" He replies, pulling his earphones off his head for a moment, pausing his Youtube video.
"Because, it is a real adventure," I tell him. Maybe at 13, he doesn't have the same call of the wild as you get when you get older and realize civilization sucks. He has a Call of Duty. I think, maybe if I told him he could bring the PS3, he would be more likely to say yes. Still, I feel like I need one of my brothers to go there with me. So it's not going to happen for now.


I feel like several Henry David Thoreau quotes would be appropriate here.


"How vain it is to sit down to write when you have not stood up to live."


"All good things are wild and free."

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation."

I could keep going, but I don't even like Thoreau that much.
I just need an excuse.

"Dang it, that was such a good opportunity and I missed it!"

"What, you mean how you forgot to ask that cute guy out on a date?"

"No. I mean, I can't believe I didn't mention our mortgage rates to him."

-Me and Martha. On a daily basis. Life as a single female bank teller.

"I'm always amazed by how quickly a pre-dinner snack can turn into eating an entire jar of pickles."
- a Keaton status update that I had to record so I can look back and laugh again later

might as well do a "Judy-ism" (as Jeremy R. calls them) as well

"I always tell God--and I know He doesn't like it--that if You do this, then it means this..."
-Judy on signs from God. Specifically about who I'm going to marry if her epidural works out.

"I have a uniquely German capacity to vacillate between sentimentality and coldness."
-Tina Fey, describing a trait I see very much in my German family. :)

 

I finally got an invite to Pinterest today, and so of course that is all I've been doing for the past two hours. But (here comes the justification) I think this is at least better than just watching Netflix and eating M&M's all night. (Oh yeah, like last night.)  I am a bit disappointed in myself for the way I spend a lot of my free time. When I was out east, I read so much, and I was writing more.

So. I started a big writing project here, (as requested by the lovely Kelsea) and now I have all sorts of other inspiration for artsy stuff from endlessly surfing stranger's ideas on the internet.

This weekend, I did get in two great workouts, and my room looks fantastic. It is starting to look like the kind of place I would want to live in if I moved out. I realize how that sounds.
Maybe I will never move out then...
Okay, you talked me into it. I will always live here.

I'm not saying that having a Netflix night is bad, but I need to learn moderation. In everything. We have so few hours in between work and work...

I saw this sign the day we were walking around Chicago. It was on the left side of a door, and on the other side was a sign just like it that said:

you are strong.

I didn't get a picture, and I have been looking for one (why wouldn't there be millions of copies on the whole wide internet) but anyway.

I feel like I'm starting to get my personality back. Feeling like I don't want to just sleep all the time. Feel like I like to live here, again.

17 days until September finally starts.

Only one more week of hard work before school starts, and then things get really truly wonderful.

"honestly, I'm down like the economy"

Every morning I wake up at four a.m.

It used to be in fear, and I faced my demons and let them keep me awake for three months.

Now, I am in Utah, and I still wake up at four, though not with nightmares. I think they are visiting someone else now, maybe a coworker, or someone I've handed a latte to, years ago. But I still wake, and every time, as I move out of paralysis and get up to get a glass of water and use the restroom, I realize that I just woke up from Iowa. In my dreams.


To make a long story short:

a) I am having a hard time adjusting to my old real life.
b) I am having a hard time feeling anything at all.

I listen to people talk about their passions, and I wish for their passion, but I think things will be a LOT easier for me when school starts back up. Because, school is my passion, and I think....actually....writing is. Working everyday at a job I feel mediocre about is: Just Getting By, no matter what shoes I'm wearing or how strangers respond to me on the phone.

I am guessing that God has a lot of stuff to throw at me this year, and I am excited about it, and willing to change and grow.

I want to love deeper. I want to participate in real life.

Cheers to speaking in an American accent, relying on the internet for way more than I should, and having a new start everyday.

one nice thing about the past is that we don't have to relive it.

I know I am guilty of spending a lot of time in nostalgia, but as I was cleaning my Hoarders room this weekend, I opened up an old journal that I didn't even remember writing in.

I read some of my horrifying history from a very crazy year of my life, and thanked God that it is so far away now, and that I learned so much from it, and that I never have to do that messed up crap over again. Even though I thought it was awesome at the time.

I just gotta figure out what the heck I am doing now.
There are some things I know.

Only Jesus is cool. 
I love spicy food. 
No one person is going to make you happy, because other people are just as broken as you. Drink more water, and less of everything else. 
There is a time for video games, and there is a time for socializing. 
Don't eat the sushi if a rich guy is paying for it, and you don't see a girlfriend for him anywhere at the table. 
If you can possibly bring a pair of tennis shoes, do.
and, if you stay home and do homework instead of going out with your friends, you will save STRESS and MONEY.

These are my sureties. And I know that new ones will develop, over the next 100 years.

"Summer in the city, I'm so lonely lonely lonely
I've been hallucinating you babe, at the backs of other women. 
And I tap on their shoulder, and they turn around smiling, but there's no recognition in their eyes."
-Regina Spektor


Long week. I'm not so scared to keep doing it, it just feels like it doesn't mean much yet.
Except the beautiful people I know.
I know and love.
But I forget how to talk to, and break my arms around the ones I love. I lose my personality in between the phone calls I am paid for, and standing around in pressed black pants.
I love, and I lack. And I am sorry about the lack. But we press onward and we find old clothes in our closets that fit our new selves.

"Oh summer in the city, means cleavage cleavage cleavage.
And don't get me wrong dear, in general I'm doing quite fine.
It's just when it's summer in the city, and you're so long gone
from this city, I start to miss you baby, sometimes."

Well, I don't know what to say about a lot of stuff.

The conclusion is that I am happy to be back to my friends, and so grateful for their kindnesses to me. Love, love, love, love, love.

And then the results of being gone for so long:

...my room looks like a science experiment or a Hoarding: Buried Alive episode

...being back at work is like, are you serious? I have to do this every day? And then when you get to the end of the day, you get five blissful hours before bed, and then you think again, What? I have to go back to work AGAIN tomorrow?

...oh yeah, about all that ice cream I was eating...shoot.

...but! I forgot how amazing alone time is. I haven't had any, and it is so good to just be by myself for three hours in swimming pools and cardio cinemas

Conclusion II

Everything is going to be pretty awesome. How could it not be, with September right around the corner?

"Noah, not every disease is an airborne disease."

"If I cough in your mouth, you will get a disease."

-Emma, then Noah

"I left home, a long long time ago, in a tin can for the road, with a suitcase and some songs..."

On our way back to Iowa, we passed these outlets that we stopped at last year. We stopped there because one of Noah's shoes caught on fire at the farm and he did not have one single alternate pair.

So we got some extra shoes, but I remember last year when I was standing in that parking lot I was having a text-message conversation with an old friend (who had gotten mixed up in a past one of my crazy Liz Lemon schemes! No, I am the protagonist!) and how he asked me if I was happy, and at the end of the day I thought, I don't really know. And of all the people, he told me I should move to Iowa.

And then God provided me with a test-run summer to live out here, and I ended up loving it even more than I possibly thought I could.

So now comes....I guess a year of prayer. Although, when I was walking around Chicago for six hours, I realized all the things I love about SLC, and how even though it is a whole different country from the United States, Utah still seems to have more culture than Iowa, even if it is much less educated.

I miss the church body in SLC, but the good thing is that the church body is everywhere.

Still. I am very, very excited and terrified to go back and to try to get up each day and pretend I know what I'm doing, or what I used to do. I remember pho. I remember Este. I remember my close friends and laughing over wine and board games, watching zombie shows, waking up in my bank clothes at their houses, and riding in cars through blizzards and listening to Weezer with them.

I am so full of happy.

"How these days grow long, and I'm on my way back home, it's been hard to be away. How I miss you and I just want to kiss you, and I'm going to love you til my dying day." -Brandi Carlile

At the moment I am deep in the heart of the country.

It is very hard to live without internet, but on the otherhand I've never gotten to eat so much icecream in my entire life.

Weekend Update

Yesterday we went to a really cute movie theatre at the college that Judy and Phil went to. It was adorable, and I wish I could have taken pictures, but it would have been way awkward and "touristy" so I didn't. There was only one theatre, and it was gigantic. The lobby was tiny, with only two people working it, running back and forth to rip tickets and make popcorn. The bathrooms were like little closets with sinks and toilets inside them.

We saw Midnight in Paris and I loved every minute of it. I don't want to ruin anything, so I'm not going to say one word. Owen Wilson just never lets me down. If I am ever having a horrible day, or anxiety, or just want to feel better about anything, I just have an Owen-fest.

Today, we had a picnic with my "Uncle" Roger. He's Judy's brother, so he's a great uncle, but we've always just called him Uncle Roger because the whole family does. He is a very eccentric old man, and unless you've met him, you could never understand how funny he is. He is serious and collegiate, but really goofy. We ate on their back porch, and one of his sons (Paul) brought his wife and two daughters that are my age.
One thing I like about this side of the family, is that there is incredible push/support to get a good education, but no stress to actually get a good job. Paul is a doctor, but is just as goofy as Uncle Roger, and his wife has a Ph.D in some kind of ministry or seminary or counseling. One daughter has a degree that I can't remember, but is now living in Mexico and riding her bike a lot, and the other daughter is getting a degree in History. The three of us will probably not be getting degree-specific jobs, I am guessing.

I always tell you how much I am cooking, but here is a picture. My blog doesn't have much color most of the time.

We made beignets for breakfast, and we drink weak flavored coffee (I know what you are thinking, "You worked at Starbucks!") and there are some delicious strawberries.  It was great, but the house smelled like beignets all day, and in a bad way.

The neighbor kid comes and knocks on the door about 4 times a day. Kids are already bored by summer. "If you need to talk to me," he says, "My mom's cell phone number is......" Which is hilarious.

We have kind of been watching some heavy movies. We watched The Godfather a couple days ago, which made me remember I wanted to marry an Italian. But then yesterday we watched The Green Mile, which I had also never seen. It was one of those moments where I just cried and worshipped God, and made me so thankful for mercy.

I also had a moment when Judy asked me, "Do you think this would look good in your front yard?" And I couldn't remember what my front yard in Utah looked like. I pictured the yard here, and it took me a few tries to pull up my memory of our home in Salt Lake.

How do I reconcile? I know there will be good parts about going back. Seeing loved ones. But my heart will ache for my home here.

When I was little, we sometimes kept Cool Whip in the fridge, and I'd walk by and if no one was looking, I'd stick my finger in and eat a big glob of it.

One day my dad caught me and that was that. I couldn't eat the Cool Whip anymore.

And now I'm an adult and I can eat a whole tub of Cool Whip if I want.

Day 40

I am still glad every morning that I wake up in Iowa.

Uncle Bill came out to teach out here over the past few days, and had lunch with us (Maid Rites - they are like a sloppy joe, sort of. Mmmm) and then we went to see him speak at the church. It was really awesome to worship with the college kids out here. I looked around and told Judy, "This would never happen in Utah." About how there were so many kids going to College and Church. As in, our church. Four girls introduced themselves to us, and they were very nice. Not one single girl sat next to a single guy in the whole room of like, 100 people. It reminds me of how Colorado probably still is too. And I think it is awesome that they are killing it at the old fashioned way that our movement is kind of supposed to do dating and socializing, but I heaved a sigh of relief that we don't follow that very closely in Utah, and that we can have a room full of guys and girls who are actually friends and actually talk to each other and can ride in cars together and still stay pure somehow. :)

I am enjoying not having headaches. I don't know if I can attribute it to being here and not there, but usually May through August I have a headache every single morning I wake up. I've had maybe 5 headaches total since I've left Utah. Could be the sleep, the cleaner air, or just not having stress. If you have migraines, you know that it is such a different world to live without the pain.

God is good. I don't deserve His goodness, but I am so thankful that He chose me.

"Oh. That girl combed her hair with an egg-beater. We should pull up next to her and yell, "You look like a pineapple!" Better not. She might have a gun and shoot us."
- Judy, on the girl in the car in front of us, who had a messy bun on top of her head

"Well. We are really good cooks. And this dinner is going to be great because we are sick of eating out. Or maybe we're not."
- always rethinking her current statements. I got her to try Greek food for the first time in her life. We went to the Greek fair and had Gyros, and she LOVED it. She asked the woman at the booth to tell us how to pronounce it, and now when she wants to make me laugh, she will just be talking with her normal accent, and then twist up her mouth and say, "Yee-hi-roes" in her imitation Greek accent.

We just have a lot of fun. We've been laughing a lot today.

No place like home.

I'm getting more confused which direction is supposed to be home.  I'm happier here than I've been since...probably 2008. (Part of it could be that I'm not working, not stressed about papers, I'm on top of a mountain with my relationship with God, and having healthy amounts of sleep) But part of it is spending all this time with someone who is so easy to talk to, and wants to be with me, and spills out love when touched.

I love my friends and family in Utah so much.
But at the moment, it's hard to picture not coming back here for good.

"She used to have the cutest short hair."
-Judy, absentmindedly, on a news reporter. She always laments when women sell out and let their hair grow

I was telling her this animated story about turning lanes today while we were driving on our way to a doctor appointment and waving my arms around and laughing about it, and I looked over and she was just smiling at me. "I'm glad you're here." She said, in reply to my story. And it's moments like that. I want to freeze time. Sleeping in, and then when we finally wake up, I just go in her room and lay on her quilt and we just talk with no age-gap between us.

I've been away from Utah long enough to start to believe in real love again. To melt my heart when I see my grandparents talk about their deceased spouses. To realize that yes, you can make a love last 50 years. I don't pretend to know how to hope for that myself (perhaps the Lord will come back before that affection could stir up within me. It would take a lightning bolt to feel butterflies again) but I have to recognize that it happens for other people. And that is a beautiful thing.

If only I could steal one of those stories and sell it as a novel. I might need another summer for that.

I've been at the farm for 5 days, without the internet.


I forgot what I was going to say about Greyhound buses (they are not as romantic as DCFC makes them out to be), farm chores, and the heavy but serene beauty of being out in the real country.

I mowed the lawn on a rider-mower which I can't remember if I have ever done. And I caught a possum (sp?) and two raccoons. Vermin! ha.

I talked to Shannon (ON THE PHONE!) for half an hour yesterday. She is the first voice I have heard (other than my family) from home, in 32 days. I fell in love with her all over again. 


I am packing up my little blue bag again, and moving onward.

Each day that goes by, I miss home so much, but I also feel like this is home.
These are not so much Judy's dishes, but now they are our dishes. Our routines intertwine.

This may sound ridiculous, but feels like reality.

I have a plane ticket back to Salt Lake tomorrow that I'm not going to use. If I had known, packing my bag to come here, that I was going to be out here for 3 months, I would have packed a lot more stuff.

I miss my buddies. I miss Este Pizza. I miss my family. I even miss the Aussies.

But I'm really having a good time with Judy. And everyday I look at my surroundings and think that we are masochists to live in a desert when Iowa is so lush, and the air smells beautiful.

I did some gardening yesterday with Judy. I am not a gardener. She kept saying all these latin names, and I was like, I don't know what that is, and she said, "the pink flowers over there". I'm only good for pulling weeds.

And I was trying to stay really white due to skin cancer, but I have a really horrible farmer's tan.

Living away from Salt Lake and all my usual sights and tastes(I haven't had anything spicy in 20 days) starts to boil me down and I think of myself as this blank state.

This is what a lot of people wish for. A chance to start over and run away from your problems. And in this case, it really worked, but that doesn't mean I don't miss the people who usually help me solve the problems.

I got a lot of texts from people I love today, which sounds really stupid, but means a lot when I haven't seen any Salt Lakers in 3 weeks. And this is just the first "trimester" of my trip. Ha. But I take each day at a time and know I won't be given a gift so huge as this trip, again, for a really long time. Or maybe I will, this year could be God's way of saying, "Rachel, good job hanging in there for all of 2009 and the hard parts of 2010." I can't really tell if that is a sacrilegious thing to say. Right now I have some Benedryl  starting to kick in.

So here are some of my action steps in hitting the reset button while I am out here in the fields of waving grain.
- I've been catching up on my daily Bible readings. (I am only one month behind now. Woohoo!)
- I am trying to clean up my speech, in all ways.
- trying to be quick to serve.
- learning the stories, the heritage. Geesh. I am supposed to be writing these stories down.

Judy told me today that she cried really hard when we moved to Colorado to start a church. She was devastated. And I never really thought about that. We have always just kept moving farther and farther from home base, and it never seemed to phase my parents, but it was really hard on the grandparents.

I told Judy today that I feel like I am supposed to be writing my proverbial novel. You always see the writers go off into the country to write, but here I am watching Reality Television and painting my fingernails.

I will try harder. I will.

Maybe it was a little premature to say that I don't want to go back to Utah. I do miss people there. Especially my family.
I just don't miss the dog hair, the pollution, and doing the same old.

I will want to go back, just not right now.

We are talking about me staying here until the end of June, when I would then go to the farm with my family for most of July. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity. Blair Waldorf may summer in Paris, but this is the first time I've gotten to "summer" anywhere, and of course I would choose the Midwest. :)

I might not do my Into the Wild adventure this summer, but this is an adventure in itself.

I mean, I have been wearing the same 6 shirts over and over and over...

[x] Made my first quiche

I'm just learning all sorts of recipes.

I don't really want to go back to Utah, and this is a problem.

Receiving Gifts.

I feel downright spoiled, these days.

And there is something very hard for me, about receiving gifts. I'm the oldest child in my family, and we grew up in a very frugal household. I never wanted to owe my parents everything, so I've always had jobs to pay for the things that I wanted to enjoy, but wouldn't let my parents pay for.

I had my truck paid off by my first semester of college. I always bought my own clothes. I have never asked my parents for money.

Growing up this way has made it very hard for me to accept gifts. To receive a gift I haven't earned gives me that weird feeling in my gut. I have to live up to this, I think.

Since I got here, I have been lavishly showered in love and presents, and adoration by my grandmother, my grandfather, and even my great uncle. I think, that even though it is hard to receive this attention, it is a picture, also, of what Christ has done for me. Something that I can never repay. But it gives me drive in my gut to live up to something. Our works on earth will never bring us any closer to the arms of Jesus, but our servitude is a reflection of our gratitude.

I am more humbled and convicted each day of what a crumby human I am, and the Christ-follower I want to become. I want to leave a legacy.

I want to break the habit of staying up til 1am and getting up at 9am, but tonight is not the night, I guess.

I got to see my grandfather (Marvin) today and yesterday, because he is in town visiting his Iowa friends. This is the most cheerful I've seen him since two years ago. He didn't even start crying at lunch today when Gin told a story about my grandma. I did instead.

Life here is...good. The air smells like honey, and it's thick and muggy. I like the humidity. The streets are small, like the older parts of the Salt Lake valley, but very much unrepaired compared to Utah streets.
I am getting to know my way around Des Moines, even by myself. I know the street names and where they intersect, even though they don't have NorthSouthEastWest attached to them. I feel like a native more each day. I know I could stay, if God asked me to do that. I'd miss every one in Salt Lake really dreadfully, but I could do it.

I had a New Belgium 1554 tonight. I know you're jealous. If you live in Utah. But no matter if I just have one beer, or twenty, I always get a headache.

And also, I was using the electric blanket on my bed two days ago, and then the next day it was suddenly summer. And you might know I hate summer, but I was standing out on the lawn, accidentally enjoying the sprinklers, and I do have to admit that I have it in my heart to enjoy summer nights. But that's it. I am already dreaming of September Fashion, and Thanksgiving, and snowfall, and pumpkins. Call me a heretic.

Happy Mother's Day!

Today we made really delicious orange scones with really decadent frosting. Real scones, not Utah scones.

All of my grandmother's dishes are that elegant.

Mother's day is stressful for me (like, what holidays aren't?) because I never know how to say thank you enough for what a mother does. But I think saying thank you at all is a big deal. So, thanks to all moms!!

We watched all of Anne of Green Gables today, which is really long. Any L. M. Montgomery brings back age eleven through thirteen. That, and watching Pride and Prejudice last night has put me in kind of a sappy-romantic mood. That, and not seeing any men my age since my plane ride last week.

So here is a toast to mothers, and here is a toast to classic romance.
And maybe a toast to whatever Modern Romance is, and how that brings about more mothers.

"This might be long and boring. We don't know yet."
-Judy on film Hereafter

You might have heard Celisse and I pretending to be Judy while we watch movies. But I always have to laugh inside when I am actually watching a movie with the real Judy.

She does a thing of explaining to you what we usually already know, and she says this collectively, like we are just finding it out together. It's fun. Try it.

"Oh the girl is just now realizing she's in love with the guy."

Also, she falls asleep during movies a lot, like my dad, but she wakes up and then asks a whole bunch of questions, and then falls back asleep. Kind of like watching a movie with Noah, only he doesn't fall asleep. He just asks a lot of questions.

On a side note, I think Noah is going to turn out, somehow, to be the most wildly successful of all of us Tenenbaums.
He'll be the one ignoring our questions and phonecalls. And rightly so.

I looked down tonight at my hands, washing the coffeepot, and thought about each day that I do this. I like playing house.

And Judy was right. Hereafter was way long and boring. Too many plotlines, but not enough Magnolia-ness.

[x] make my first meatloaf

Yeah. That was a real thing on my fake bucket-list.

Sometimes Megan talks about the meals she is preparing, and she gets really wound up, and stresses out in a cute way about it. I thought making meatloaf was going to be really hard, because of all the questions I heard her asking people. But I love meatloaf (the food.) so much that I decided to do it anyway, and Judy gave me a recipe.

Megan and I can make meatloaf, and you can too.

I've been frying up potatoes, breaded fish, bacon...(yep, we've been eating pretty heavy meals) and we've been eating ice cream drumsticks every night. They are going to make me buy another seat when I fly back to Utah.

Just kidding.

I've been trying to run outside (hate it), and go up and down the stairs, and I'm trying to do push-ups and sit-ups when Judy is on the phone. I don't want her to know that I'm running up and down the stairs, because that is just embarrassing that I would think that is going to cancel out ice cream or melted Pepperjack turkey sandwiches. (Are you hungry yet?) I'm approximately skinnier than when I left, but I did buy a pair of sweat pants that I wear all day, so I really can't tell.

Iowa is treating me well. I haven't had heartburn, a headache, or a stomach ache since I've been here. Although my brain might be melting from watching too much TV, this is a short, blissful season of my life that I'm going to enjoy while it lasts.

sarahogren on Etsy

I was hiding underneath the sea. I was looking out for me. Just me, the fish and the sea.
Patrick Watson

I lay awake for a while at night, without my white noise, wondering about how I got to be the way I am, and what parts are the influence of my family. Jeremy once said, as he was walking out the door,
"Rachel, you have your mother's common sense, and your dad's cynicism. You've got common cynicism."

My dad's side of the family is extremely outgoing, laughs a lot, loves deeply, and worries about stuff until they get it over with.
I think that when I am outgoing, I am like them. Especially worrying about stuff.

My mother's side of the family is more introverted, and mostly keep things bottled inside, but also laughs a lot, they know how to have fun together.

I hope I am a mix of them. I know that my honesty of who I am deep down only comes out over wine with the Moores, or during Jazz games with Celisse and Bryan in their basement. Or eating out with Kelsea and Caleb. (Oh, I just figured it out, I'm a third wheel.) But otherwise I know that I can push things away to simmer for years, and I need to let go.

Being with Judy is really great so far. My heart is learning humility, I think. I look around at the pictures in her house, and think about how in-love my grandparents were until the day Phil went to Heaven. I feel my walls melting about the marriage thing. I realize marriage will turn out really good for some people. I won't close my heart off for good, even if my eyes are closed right now.

"Rachel, we're not teenagers anymore. We don't fall in love with every guy we see," Martha told me during my last week of work. And she's right. There's probably some hoser out there for me somewhere. And hopefully he's almost done becoming a Dermatologist.

Day One.

I woke up in Iowa. On the second floor of the Happily Ever After house. When you walk in this house, it smells better than any other place. I woke up late.
It is amazing to just sit and talk with Judy, and not worry about how I have to leave in 5 days. Or 6 days. Or even 20 days. To not think about vault combos, or account maintenance, or Spanish. I went grocery shopping for us, and the cashier and bagger both gave me a smiling welcome to Iowa.

There is no one as free as I am, right now.
I just wish she wasn't in so much pain. Twenty four hours a day. But she is encouraged and hopeful, which makes me encouraged and hopeful.

We made a short trip to the hospital, and on the way back I noticed a marquee under a sign for either a dry cleaner, or a car wash or something, and it said, Don't abandon your friend. Just like that. No explanation. And I thought, maybe their heart is broken. Or maybe it's just an ad that I don't understand.